Sunday, February 8

move

Where do I being? I hate when I don't have the time/energy to blog for awhile because then I have all of these things I want to write about but then forget.

We're here. I knew this was going to be very bittersweet for me and difficult since I HATE change, but I never thought about the fact that it would be an adjustment for Lily too. And that has made it even sadder/harder for me. Before I start discussing the bad parts though, I want to make sure that I clarify that I'm SO thankful to God for all of this and I AM happy about this next phase of our life.

The past 2 weeks have been a whirlwind for Lily. I never took the time to think about that Lily knows our old home really well now even though she's only 14 months old. This new home is VERY strange to her. Not only is she in a new and MUCH larger place, she's been passed around to a gazillion different people it seems like and lived in a world of boxes and packing tape. The first few days she was VERY whiny/clingy and just crying a lot. The saddest part was at bedtime. Lily always runs to the bathroom door saying "baa" for bath as soon as I take her clothes off at night. Well she obviously didn't know at first where the bathroom was and she would look at me saying "ba" in a confused voice and had this pitiful little look on her face because she didn't know where to go. For those of you that aren't moms, you probably won't understand. But it was VERY sad and pitiful! Alicia and my sister of course reminded that she WILL get use to her new home. It just takes time. And they were right! Last night when I took her clothes off she headed straight for the bathroom door! It made me really happy.

So how am I doing? The first 2 or 3 days I actually didn't cry at all because I was SO busy with trying to get our house in order. Then one night Matt was gone, Lily was to bed, and I had the time to think about it all. The biggest thing was that I desperately needed to know that I was going to be able to find some mom friends and get out with Lily. It was SO hard knowing that I had nothing planned and that my weekly playdate with Alicia and Andi and my coffee night out with Vicky days were gone. :( My sister really motivated me to reach out. She reminded me that I was going to just have to put myself out there and ask people if they want to hang out. The Mommies Network is a HUGE resource and they have scheduled events/playdates a lot. So I'm going to a strange playgroup at the mall on Tuesday and then I contacted an old friend of mine who has a little girl and we are going to lunch at chick-fil-a on Wednesday! Yay me for being brave! :) It still doesn't feel like home yet and that we should be going back to Lynchburg but that will just take time.

Our house, on a positive note, is AMAZING! They put a ton of work in to it before we moved in including completely remodeling both of the bathrooms, all new carpet, new paint, and new wood flooring in the kitchen and dining room. We also have 2 beautiful fireplaces in the house. I'm so grateful for all this space! It's so important when you have kids and get overrun by toys!! I posted all the pics of the house on facebook so you can check them out there.

Matt is enjoying his job of course. Last week he went in for a little bit each day but was able to just get things done around the house and errands that we needed to run. So that was nice! This week will probably be more his normal schedule but it's still really flexible. He's going to do Monday as his day off.

I am sure there are plenty of other things I wanted to write about but will save those for later since I am now ready to just sit and watch some tv!

1 comment:

Jen said...

It's always hard having to start over, I've had to do it many times and it's true that you definitely just have to get out there and do stuff. I really like MOPS (MOthers of Preschoolers--for anyone w/kids birth-age 5)--you can find it in local churches. Also, Mom's club is a national organization which has activities like playgroups, outings, moms night outs, etc. Those are the ways that I've gotten to know people in my area.